Dating, Love and Commercialization!
Time changes, vocabulary changes, but we simply changes “please Mr. Postman” to “you’ve got mail”. All and all, we still can sing oldie song like “can’t buy my love by the Beatles” even some people prefer to sing “What love got to do with it by Tina Turner”.
I’m one of those people who are in dating for romance. I still love flirting, dinner and slowly getting to know someone and have those special feelings.
Asian or Russian girls dating a white man becomes so fashionable in some small area that people might assume, it’s the trend of the whole country which is not true. Many things I heard but I’m not sure neither could verify that it’s a true story or not. The frightening part for me is not what they did but it’s sound so commercialized, catalog brides sound like a shopping cart session in amazon.com instead of a dating web friendly community.
Where all the romances go?
Are we speed dating and no longer need passion and falling in love?
Love on the internet super highway not necessary mean, you need to run on a fast track, and a short cut! People pretty or not, handsome or not, we all get old and sex could be dull, plain as well as routine (try the 7 years itches, lol).
Romance, good feeling you cherish will last longer. You will hold on to that loving feeling of “loving someone” and “falling in love”, that feelings that give you that silly grin when you alone. The good mood that all your friends think you’re on drugs, lol.
Bride by mail for me is ok, acceptable but I personally will NOT want to be a bride by mail or being catalog for someone to choose me. Flirting online is the same as flirting in life and lacking of “choices” is not what I would bargain for. Dating community gives you that choices and it’s everyone choices not just yours’ to choose.
Dating online should NOT be about migration because a girl wants a permit to live in another country and also should not be that a man can provide such and such in trade of a younger desperate woman. All is ok though, if there’s a mutual feeling and some couple just get all the luck. I met many couples that actually make it work like magic and live happily ever after.
Just have it all and don’t leave out the romance. Dating online should be about reaching out and convenient. Dating site categorized people by age, race, location, zip code, and country already and that’s what database does, but don’t let yourself being catalog like merchandises.
Your choice!
What’s the hurry?
No one too old to date!
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Monday, July 21, 2008
Money scam online! More reason you should protect your private email, FUNNY true story!
Money scam online! More reason you should protect your private email... Funny true story.
So, I heard and got reported from quite a few members of “money scam”. Starting off from beautiful girls photo then sweet email and touch with money asking.
You’re smart so if you know then block the list. I rather you blocked them than suspend them and not because I agree that they should be able to ask for money.
I did suspend them anyway.
A true funny story:
A friend of mine use to communicate with a girl online (I don’t want to mention which nationality)… then he thought he was going to fall in love for she’s young and beautiful.
After long contact, she messaged him that she need “eye surgery money” or “she could go blind”… how sad?
He replied “My dear, you are so beautiful and I’m sure you can get by with one eye”.
LOL… so if you received money scam, please report me and don’t get so serious about it
So, I heard and got reported from quite a few members of “money scam”. Starting off from beautiful girls photo then sweet email and touch with money asking.
You’re smart so if you know then block the list. I rather you blocked them than suspend them and not because I agree that they should be able to ask for money.
I did suspend them anyway.
A true funny story:
A friend of mine use to communicate with a girl online (I don’t want to mention which nationality)… then he thought he was going to fall in love for she’s young and beautiful.
After long contact, she messaged him that she need “eye surgery money” or “she could go blind”… how sad?
He replied “My dear, you are so beautiful and I’m sure you can get by with one eye”.
LOL… so if you received money scam, please report me and don’t get so serious about it
Ten (10) turn off messages for dating online?
Ten (10) turn off messages for dating online?
Below is suggest NOT to do listed (not in priority order).
Turn Off 1
I’m coming to your area, will you come for drinks?
This is ok if it’s not the first message. If this is the first message then it’ real bad because I have no idea who you are and you can be a serial killer for all I know. If this message sent from white man to Asian woman, it’s really ugly because you assume the Asian women must be so crazy about white man already. This is the same as walking in a bar and not even introduce yourself but ask a girl out already!
If you do, women imagine you as a professional pick up girl from the bar and very self-loved.
Turn Off 2
“You’re beautiful will you marry me” or “You sound nice and I really want to get married and I have people who will arrange your visa”. This is sweet but hilarious. Dating online is not amazon.com and woman can’t be order for shipment courier. Of course, there are dating site that provide you with one way choosing bride and that’s always choices.
If you do, you sound like an old fashion guy who’s always the boss not a friend or a lover.
Turn Off 3
“I’m flying to…. Country and hope you can meet me at 3pm at ….. hotel”. He has the courtesy to tell me that I’m 1 of 5 girls he’s meeting for his vacation limit time for quickie wife shopping.
If you do, I‘d imagine you as a “Fast food GUY”.
Turn Off 4
“Too long message”. Surprisingly these sweet guys can really write and they wrote two to three A4 pages of message. Message includes dog, cat, family, kids, and marriage, divorced, work and so on covering from childbirth to present day biography. I never get pass half A4 page reading and gave up.
If you do, then you’re not a listener but a talker and in person, you must talk a lot. Women like men who listen, so don’t so do all the talking. Try to leave some mystery and subject for your next conversation (messages). What’s the hurry?
Turn Off 5
“Too short message”. This is most common so far in dating online. A short message of email me, chat with me, skype me on MSN. This is the same as walk pass a women at the bar and drop her a piece of paper with your phone number. It normally works if a woman does that.
If you do, you should be darn handsome or drop dead “Brad Pitt”.
Turn Off 6
“I’m rich”. There are so many ways to tell women that you’re successful without being so blunt. I couldn’t blame such response, for once I was just curious about type of guy I’m looking for by writing.
I’m looking for a men with REQUIRED “income over 150,000US$”, LOL.
I was wonder will I get any response for being such so rude and it’s not a sugardaddy website, lol.
There are responses;
- Real estate guyI’m a successful man (also attached photo of him and his Mercedez Benz)
- I.T. guyI make more than 150,000US$ and I like a woman who knows what she’s looking for
- Transport and BrokeringI’m secure and have my own business. You sound interesting.
- Artist/Photographer
We have so many things in common but I don’t make that much money
Guess, who I wrote back? LOL.
It’s the brokering and transport guy for he’s humble and he talking to me NOT telling me.
Turn Off 7
Mystery email “write me at MyEmail@!!hot%%^mail&dot*com”
When a man sent message with their email in the first message or write secrete code such as MyEmail@!!hot%%^mail&dot*com
First email communication with MOSS CODE? LOL.
May be it’s a computing binary code?
If he’s not taking time to talk to me, struggle to upgrade (on some site are free anyway), so will he’s be the type who’d take me to pan pizza instead of Italian restaurant?
I wonder what if a woman sent you messages with “write me at MyEmail@!!hot%%^mail&dot*com”... What will you think of her?
Will you think she’s cheap with no style? If so, same apply to you. If you think it’s charming then go ahead save that few bucks.
I disagree with give out my personal email for bad experienced. I’d day you can do that (of course, you can) only when you’re sure about the other person you’re emailing too.
Turn Off 8
Show off too much. Man who achieves a lot can show off more but it’s the way you show it. I mean, a man photo with his fancy car is ok. The things that I found turn off is when a men sent me his photo with giant screen TV!
Why? It’s saying to me that he’s an indoor guy and a couch potato with beer and remote control. If that’s his proud asset then I’m in big trouble, lol.
On the contrary, men showing off their upper torso with no cloth, no furniture is always a turn off. He’s sure an outdoor guy.
Showing off your photos on a travel is always a plus for most women loves to see places and by seeing those photos, they already drift away with going there with you.
Turn Off 9
Rude! Some men start to write sarcastic message when received no reply. This only shows he’s quick tempered and has no patient.
Remember, patient is a real virtue!
Turn Off 10
Too humble! I would suggest do not write to women and put you down on weight, images, look, or height. Women like strong, secure and stable guy and you’re showing the weak side. What if you got message from a women and she said “I’m a bit short and fat but I want to get to know you”. Maybe, she’s not that bad looking, but her attitude is so negative and what an insecure person, right?
These are my personal opinion as a woman who date online and date offline a lot with no bias. Most of my friends are more men than women and I’m writing this article same way, I would suggest my men buddies!
Have fun dating online and remember writing a woman online dating is the same as going to the bar and try to talk to girls face to face. Just because it’s online, what you write still tells a lot about who you are.
When man messages to a woman on dating site is the same as men talking to women at the bar. Once you said it, it’s who you are even faceless and nameless on the cyber world.
Before I started my own dating site, I participated in a few dating site to check out how things work and many men messages me not knowing or don’t care what they are writing.
Dating online is nearly the same approach as walk to a girl at the bar. Either you’re success with the pick up or flopped!
Below is suggest NOT to do listed (not in priority order).
Turn Off 1
I’m coming to your area, will you come for drinks?
This is ok if it’s not the first message. If this is the first message then it’ real bad because I have no idea who you are and you can be a serial killer for all I know. If this message sent from white man to Asian woman, it’s really ugly because you assume the Asian women must be so crazy about white man already. This is the same as walking in a bar and not even introduce yourself but ask a girl out already!
If you do, women imagine you as a professional pick up girl from the bar and very self-loved.
Turn Off 2
“You’re beautiful will you marry me” or “You sound nice and I really want to get married and I have people who will arrange your visa”. This is sweet but hilarious. Dating online is not amazon.com and woman can’t be order for shipment courier. Of course, there are dating site that provide you with one way choosing bride and that’s always choices.
If you do, you sound like an old fashion guy who’s always the boss not a friend or a lover.
Turn Off 3
“I’m flying to…. Country and hope you can meet me at 3pm at ….. hotel”. He has the courtesy to tell me that I’m 1 of 5 girls he’s meeting for his vacation limit time for quickie wife shopping.
If you do, I‘d imagine you as a “Fast food GUY”.
Turn Off 4
“Too long message”. Surprisingly these sweet guys can really write and they wrote two to three A4 pages of message. Message includes dog, cat, family, kids, and marriage, divorced, work and so on covering from childbirth to present day biography. I never get pass half A4 page reading and gave up.
If you do, then you’re not a listener but a talker and in person, you must talk a lot. Women like men who listen, so don’t so do all the talking. Try to leave some mystery and subject for your next conversation (messages). What’s the hurry?
Turn Off 5
“Too short message”. This is most common so far in dating online. A short message of email me, chat with me, skype me on MSN. This is the same as walk pass a women at the bar and drop her a piece of paper with your phone number. It normally works if a woman does that.
If you do, you should be darn handsome or drop dead “Brad Pitt”.
Turn Off 6
“I’m rich”. There are so many ways to tell women that you’re successful without being so blunt. I couldn’t blame such response, for once I was just curious about type of guy I’m looking for by writing.
I’m looking for a men with REQUIRED “income over 150,000US$”, LOL.
I was wonder will I get any response for being such so rude and it’s not a sugardaddy website, lol.
There are responses;
- Real estate guyI’m a successful man (also attached photo of him and his Mercedez Benz)
- I.T. guyI make more than 150,000US$ and I like a woman who knows what she’s looking for
- Transport and BrokeringI’m secure and have my own business. You sound interesting.
- Artist/Photographer
We have so many things in common but I don’t make that much money
Guess, who I wrote back? LOL.
It’s the brokering and transport guy for he’s humble and he talking to me NOT telling me.
Turn Off 7
Mystery email “write me at MyEmail@!!hot%%^mail&dot*com”
When a man sent message with their email in the first message or write secrete code such as MyEmail@!!hot%%^mail&dot*com
First email communication with MOSS CODE? LOL.
May be it’s a computing binary code?
If he’s not taking time to talk to me, struggle to upgrade (on some site are free anyway), so will he’s be the type who’d take me to pan pizza instead of Italian restaurant?
I wonder what if a woman sent you messages with “write me at MyEmail@!!hot%%^mail&dot*com”... What will you think of her?
Will you think she’s cheap with no style? If so, same apply to you. If you think it’s charming then go ahead save that few bucks.
I disagree with give out my personal email for bad experienced. I’d day you can do that (of course, you can) only when you’re sure about the other person you’re emailing too.
Turn Off 8
Show off too much. Man who achieves a lot can show off more but it’s the way you show it. I mean, a man photo with his fancy car is ok. The things that I found turn off is when a men sent me his photo with giant screen TV!
Why? It’s saying to me that he’s an indoor guy and a couch potato with beer and remote control. If that’s his proud asset then I’m in big trouble, lol.
On the contrary, men showing off their upper torso with no cloth, no furniture is always a turn off. He’s sure an outdoor guy.
Showing off your photos on a travel is always a plus for most women loves to see places and by seeing those photos, they already drift away with going there with you.
Turn Off 9
Rude! Some men start to write sarcastic message when received no reply. This only shows he’s quick tempered and has no patient.
Remember, patient is a real virtue!
Turn Off 10
Too humble! I would suggest do not write to women and put you down on weight, images, look, or height. Women like strong, secure and stable guy and you’re showing the weak side. What if you got message from a women and she said “I’m a bit short and fat but I want to get to know you”. Maybe, she’s not that bad looking, but her attitude is so negative and what an insecure person, right?
These are my personal opinion as a woman who date online and date offline a lot with no bias. Most of my friends are more men than women and I’m writing this article same way, I would suggest my men buddies!
Have fun dating online and remember writing a woman online dating is the same as going to the bar and try to talk to girls face to face. Just because it’s online, what you write still tells a lot about who you are.
When you know you’re in love?
When you know you’re in love?
Love symptom is easy to detect. Once you addicted to talk to someone on daily basis. Thinking of that person with a smile, that’s when you know.
I’m an I.T. geek so hardly leave my nest. Meeting someone online seems like a good way to go and not because I’m desperate. Despite the long distance and relationship we have, it is very cyber and a wire running in the fiber optic or wireless wave signal.
People might think the idea of online dating is weird and for loner but the fact is with the new way of life, sometime we email or text our own family member so why not dating online, right?
When you’re in love you will have that love hormone and it’s last for 10-12 months. You’ll grow and blossom.
Wonder if I want to be in love or I just like the feeling of “being in one”. It’s hard to say.
I didn’t date anyone for 2 years once and was very depress with work. Everyone told me I need a psychiatrist. One friend cured me with what he said and all he said was “You need to get laid”, LOL.
When you know it’s time to move on?
When you know it’s time to move on?
It’s easy but hard to call it end for being the one to say “it’s over”, “we should start seeing somebody else” is hard.
You know it’s over when
- You and your love start to pick different restaurant
- You and your love start to go to movies more with friends than each other
- When you stop laughing at his/her joke
- When his/her little things that used to be so cute is now start to be annoying
- When you’re not looking forward to spent time together anymore
- When you start to have biggest fight ever
Breaking up is hard to do for some and may not be for others. I’m a very philosophical person so breaking up for me is a transient. I cope with breaking up very well, while most of my friends are crying or whining. I would say they are more human that I am.
I’m a bit stone in that sense but facing the fact that we have to move on doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road.
I think, it’s a beginning of the new road so let’s see where the bus will take me, so go to NEXT STOP for you’ll never know who’ll be there. If you get lost, there’s always another bus or you can hitch hike a Mercedes, lol.
Be positive! After all, being alone is not all that bad at all.
That’s why they created cable with hundreds of channels, and you can always have 10 cats, LOL.
It’s easy but hard to call it end for being the one to say “it’s over”, “we should start seeing somebody else” is hard.
You know it’s over when
- You and your love start to pick different restaurant
- You and your love start to go to movies more with friends than each other
- When you stop laughing at his/her joke
- When his/her little things that used to be so cute is now start to be annoying
- When you’re not looking forward to spent time together anymore
- When you start to have biggest fight ever
Breaking up is hard to do for some and may not be for others. I’m a very philosophical person so breaking up for me is a transient. I cope with breaking up very well, while most of my friends are crying or whining. I would say they are more human that I am.
I’m a bit stone in that sense but facing the fact that we have to move on doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road.
I think, it’s a beginning of the new road so let’s see where the bus will take me, so go to NEXT STOP for you’ll never know who’ll be there. If you get lost, there’s always another bus or you can hitch hike a Mercedes, lol.
Be positive! After all, being alone is not all that bad at all.
That’s why they created cable with hundreds of channels, and you can always have 10 cats, LOL.
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